Lets Talk: How to Maintain a Positive Mindset

Maintaining positive mindset isn’t always easy. In the height of the social media world, although it’s great, sometimes everything looks perfect.

However, a positive mindset does not mean that everything is perfect. To me, it’s more recognising how I’m feeling, but knowing that I can & will be able to achieve my goals, aspirations etc.

Typically, I do tend to assume the worst, especially when I am aiming for something. My A-Levels are a prime example here, I knew what I wanted & I’d put so much hard work in & although they are not the be-all & end-all, I knew what I wanted but I still convinced myself that I wouldn’t have got it.

To put it straight, I’m hard on myself & often that increases my anxiety & clouds my ability to have a positive mindset.

For those of you who may be in a similar boat for many different reasons, so here’s a few ways that hopefully will be able to help & support a positive mindset.

Take time for yourself

Simple eh? But it’s one that I tend to ignore the most. I prefer to distract myself, especially from the thoughts in my head that are tearing me down. But it’s important to take a step back, note down what you’re feeling & write down what you have achieved whilst feeling like this, no matter how small or big that is. Write down what you’d like to do & that means that one day you can strive towards it.

Remember you’re not alone

I always remember the saying ‘a problem solved is a problem halved’ & practising this it may make your negative thoughts seem less daunting, less scary. Talk to someone you feel comfortable with, let them listen & lift you up, it may be surprising what a relief it is to talk about everything that is going on. There are also plenty of charities that may be able to support; Mind offer a range of different helplines.

Find your Self-Care ‘routine’

This completely depends on what works for you. It may be doing a skincare routine, getting out for a walk, run, football etc, or it may be finding your creative outlet. It’s important to look after yourself & to take time to breathe. Sometimes I don’t realise how anxious I am until I take some space, for example, going for a walk & noticing the difference in my mood.

So, I’ve written this post with the hope that it’ll support anyone to find the ‘light at the end of the tunnel’ – it’s a tricky journey but cherish the days when you feel ‘okay’.

Let me know the ways that help you stay positive?

I’m always up for a chat so you can drop me an email at theimlifeblog@gmail.com or send a dm on Instagram or Twitter.

Im x

My Love for Me.You.A Diary

Right, are you ready for a post that goes on and on about how in love I am with this book and the concept?

I hope so because that’s what you’re getting today!

It’s fair to say that I’ve had a challenging few months, both mentally and emotionally so I’ve been discovering newer ways to try to lead a more positive outlook on my life. This weekend was incredibly positive, it was my 20th birthday and I celebrated with family and friends and more to the point of this blog post, received this book as a gift.

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Dawn French has written an incredible non-fiction book which becomes personalised by you as you connect and interact with the places in the journal for you to continue Dawn’s lists, thoughts and vents. I’ve always had a love for reading and writing, one of the reasons why I started my blog, but I have never kept a journal, my writing at younger ages was more short stories with imaginative plots. This book has given me the perfect excuse to read and write at the same time.

Each month begins with a section to read through how Dawn feels towards the month but with a theme or focus running throughout and I personally find it inspiring to read. February’s focus is on her body as she goes through each part, expanding on how she feels, positively and negatively, like describing her hands as “stumpy” before taking the wider perspective and listing what she has done with her hands that matters most to her. This is one of the aspects I think are most important about this book, it shows the reality of how we can blur amazing parts of us with such negativity at times.

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Typically, at the end of each month section, there’s an opportunity to reflect on what you’ve read and to personalise it yourself. This may be continuing a list started by Dawn or one for you to complete yourself, but it creates an interesting journal as I think effectively Dawn is asking you to share your thoughts and feelings towards that particular topic with her and the book.

After this, there are the pages for the days in the month and as they are unmarked, you can write whenever you want. I’m going to date every day that I write to create the proper journal feel for me, but the unmarked days make it completely up to you! Again, this is your book to personalise so writing what you want and when you want is the purpose! To begin my journey with this book, I’m going to write the positive and negative aspects of the days I choose, as a good way to reflect and to create memories to look back on.

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I already know that the concept of this book will be very helpful for my mindset in the upcoming months, as a therapeutic half an hour writing and reflecting, a pep talk for the upcoming month and all in all my guide and self help book for focusing on becoming the best version of myself. If you’ve stuck with my ramble for the last 500 words, I’d very highly recommend it as I think you’ll love it as much as I do!